I was raised in a single parent household and experienced first hand its strengths and weaknesses.
As an adult, the experiences learned in childhood, training in the military and love for my children, and all children as well became the foundation for the Surrogate Father Program.
My first masculine development experience came from the United States Marine Corps, Nineteen sixty-four, (1964) through nineteen sixty-eight, (1968). I was eighteen years old. I’ve served thirteen months of combat in South Viet Nam. The U.S.M.C. wasn’t the best experience for a young man to have, but it served its purpose; I learned some great principles in the Corps. I learned discipline, honor, how to be courageous, loyalty, and what is meant by commitment. And I also learned a host of behaviors that I don’t care to mention.
My second experience was with some of the greatest American men of African slave descent who ever lived, bar none. These men were the pillows of their community, and they were making a difference in their world.
The Idea of men looking like me, being completely responsible for themselves, their communities, their community, protecting their women and children, opening up their own businesses; that did it for me it opened my eyes to greater possibilities I’ve never seen before and that gave me purpose along with the desire to do better and to become a better person. This alone can define my purpose for being.
These are the type of men that are needed in our society today, regardless of race, strong men, manly men, masculine men. Young men today have no focus; they have no idea how to be a father or how to be the head of a family. They need that guidance and direction. They need it bad! And they need it now!
“People who are unable to motivate themselves must be content with mediocrity, no matter how impressive their other talents.”
One-Year Workshop Series: a collaboration with: Project Highroad, Goodwill Industries, Family Life of the New York Housing Authority, Martin Deporris in the Astoria Houses, Jacob Riis Settlement House and Queens Bridge Houses in Astoria Queens, NY.
Training Workshop: Westchester Community Opportunity (drug) Outreach Program ~ New Rochelle, NY.
Single Mothers Raising their Son’s: NYC – PTA, Board of Education Headquarters. Brooklyn, NY.
Surrogate Father Program: presentation, Family Respite Center for the American Red Cross, Manhattan, NY.
Surrogate Father Program: workshop, Louis H. Pink Houses Tenant Association, Brooklyn, NY
Keys to Masculine Responsibility Workshop: conducted training, Addicts Rehabilitation Center, NYC.
Stress Management: conducted training, Human Resources Administration, The Bronx, New York.
Group Workshops: conducted in the group homes for the Child Welfare Administration, City of New York.
1994 College The New School of Social Research
1993 Training, Family Mediation Family Service of Westchester County ~ Westchester,NY
1991 Certification, Parent and Agency Trainer Model Approach to Partnership in Parenting/Group Preparation and Selection, (MAPP/GPS). Prepares families for the challenges and rewards of fostering and adopting. A major focus of the program is to enable foster parents, adoptive parents and agency staff to work as team members in permanency planning.
1989 G.E.D. – Morris High School – The Bronx, New York
2004 – 2007 Two ten month Membership tours with Americorps / U.S. Vets innovative, which is a public-private collaboration that provides safe, sober and clinically support housing & employment assistance for homeless veterans to reach their highest level of independence as rapidly as possible. My assigned placement with this origination was my continuation with the GOALS program at the VAMC Martinsburg, WV, as well as keeping track of all new veterans entering the GOALS program.
2000 – 2003 Veteran Administration Medical Center Martinsburg, WV. Volunteer with the homeless program; now the G.O.A.L.S. Program, an acronym for “Gaining Occupation And Life Skills.”
Where I developed and conduct the “Family Restoration” group workshop for the veteran residence. My other assignments included transporting residence to and from job and housing searches; personal individual counseling and helping veterans to acquire their DD214’s, their birth certificates and other needed documents.
2003 – 2002 At the request of the Readjustment Counseling Therapist and the their New Program Director, I conduct a twice a week workshop session with patients who have completed the “Post Traumatic Residential Rehabilitation Program,” who are held over in the VA hospital for one reason or another but are still attached to the PRRP program. The purpose of the group was to create an atmosphere of completion for the veterans as well as preparation for their pending discharge.
2002 – 2002 At the request of the Readjustment Counseling Therapist of the “Post Traumatic Residential Rehabilitation Therapeutic Program,” I have agreed to return at the beginning of each program cycle and speak to the veterans currently in the program, who are generally new to the program and have many of the defenses common to most combat veterans with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Doing this is an attempt at getting them to get the most from the program.
1999 – 2000 Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Residential Rehabilitation Program, (PRRP) Alumni Association – Co-founder and Incorporator
This program is a community-based program consisting of combat veterans who have successfully completed the PRRP program at the Martinsburg Veterans Center, Martinsburg, WV. The program’s purpose is to support and advocate for the needs and aftercare of the all-military veterans and their families.
The (PRRP) program is a therapeutic program for veterans who have been traumatized by their combat and war experience(s). This program is a structured 90-day program in a 40-bed unit in the Domiciliary at the M.V.M.C., during which time, veterans with the diagnosis of PTSD are helped to resolve some of the trauma and grief issues from their war experiences.
1990 – 1996 Association of Black Social Workers Child Adoption, Referral and Counseling Services, New York City (Harlem) – Post-Adoptive Specialist.
I worked as a non-degreed social worker; my work included counseling families and their children who were on the verge of adoption disruptions; which is sending their adopted children back into the foster care system. My other assignments included counseling families who were in danger of having their child or children placed in the foster care system. In addition, I conducted workshops for youth slated for independent living who were living within the foster care system; I also conducted discussion groups with adopted youth and their families.
The New York Youth At-Risk Program – NYC – Youth Participant Manager
Five-day youth training course, sponsored by The Episcopal Mission Society of Greater New York.
1988 – 1990 Mount Vernon United Tenants (MVUT)
Worked as a tenant organizer – Granted by the County of Westchester Department of Social Services to prevent the further advancement of homelessness in the City of Mount Vernon, NY.
1987 – 1988 Lakeside Residential Treatment Center, Chestnut Ridge, NY
Child Care Facilitator for Emotionally Disturbed Children.
1981 – Present The Surrogate Father Program, Inc. – Founder & CEO
This community-based program is designed to deal directly with the male/father role as well as develop what it would take for them to be responsible in their homes again. The program offers a solution and a response to the dilemma of fatherless children who are a major threat not only to themselves but to society as well. Specializing in Family Restoration Through Masculine Responsibility.